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Don't Quit in the Waiting Season: Trust the Process and Keep Watering

Power of the Seed

Like a seed, your goals need time, patience, and care to grow. Keep watering, keep waiting—don't quit before the bloom.

Selfcare Chronicles

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Mar 153 min read

Golden Child Chronicles: Navigating the Pitfalls of Being the Favorite or Non-Favorite

Have you ever wondered why parents always seem to have a favorite child? 🤔 Maybe it's because one kid is just naturally funnier,...

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Apr 18, 20242 min read

Queendom: Is it Enough to Just Wear the Crown?

In the midst of what's been going on between Megan Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj, there has been a considerable Twitter debate on queen...

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Feb 1, 20243 min read

Is Lil Nas X Trolling Christianity, now?

I can't understand why Lil Nas X continues to troll people. He is actually a very talented artist. His last album, Montero, surprised me...

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Jan 9, 20243 min read

Womanhood: Formidable Warriors That Need Not Be Played With

I saw this Today Show Instagram post a week ago, and it reminded me that I was supposed to write a review of The Barbie Movie when I saw...

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Aug 21, 20235 min read

New Year, Same You!

It's something about the end of December that uproots all we all the things we did not do and discover what needs improvement. Not only...

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Jan 2, 20233 min read

Blueface and Chrisean: We Have a Problem

Blueface and Chrisean have been acting up on Beyonce's internet. If a soul tie were a relationship, it would be them. Whenever I see them...

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Sep 2, 20225 min read

Reservoir of Strength

In the words of renowned rapper Nas, "Life I wonder...would it take it under?" Honestly, doesn't it feel that way sometimes? Don't it...

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May 3, 20223 min read

What Are You Living For?

There is a new trend kicking across Tik Tok and Instagram. Men turn off their computers, go to the grocery store, buy some flowers, and...

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Apr 20, 20227 min read

Lizzo Enrage the People Again with her statement, "I'm a Body Icon"

I get so flabbergasted as to how flabbergasted people get with Lizzo says the things she says, wears what she wears, and post what she...

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Mar 3, 20222 min read

Are you Still under Programming?

Disclaimer: This post is not about MK-Ultra mind control, so if that is why you clicked on this post, you may be gravely disappointed....

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Jan 10, 20223 min read

Did Nene Leakes Move On Too Soon?

In February this year, it was rumored Lauren London was pregnant and social media went in an uproar. Although this rumor ended up being...

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Dec 19, 20213 min read

Endurance Takes the Win

Most of us heard or saw the story between the tortoise and the hare. The gist of that story is, "the race isn't given to the swift but to...

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Nov 16, 20212 min read

Kelly Price Fake Missing Fiasco: When Love and Concern Take a Left Turn

A couple of weeks ago, my jaw dropped when I read the news of Kelly Price Missing. Her family stated they could not get in contact with...

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Oct 3, 20213 min read

Dear October, I think I'll Skip the Scary Movies this Year

What in the hell happened to September? I enjoyed September 1st, looked up, and it was September 30th. I did, however, manage to legit...

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Oct 1, 20211 min read

I Can't Afford the Absence of God

The title of this blog has such a desperate tone. At a time, I was seriously spiritual and mentally desperate. I was running on fumes;...

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Sep 17, 20214 min read

Dancing in September

Did you know Septem- is Latin for the number 7? Isn't it strange the ninth month of the year root word is the number 7? The number 7...

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Sep 1, 20211 min read

Nah, Ya'll Tweakin over this Blood!

In March, there was a lot of controversy about Lil Nas X's Nike Satan Shoes. Nike went to the extent of suing Lil Nas X for federal...

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Aug 23, 20212 min read

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Ya'll let Tamara educate us! She is teaching us stuff.

We all carry something—anger, doubt, guilt, fear... But we don't have to keep carrying it.
What emotions are you letting go of this week? Let’s talk about it. 💬

👇 Drop yours in the comments.

In my latest episode, I sit down with @ann.hince , an inner peace coach and EFT tapping practitioner, to talk about how emotional trauma can get trapped in the body—and how tapping helps release it.

🎧 Watch now on YouTube: https://youtu.be/NPUSS0cHXzQ

#BYOKPodcast #JustBeIt #EmotionalFreedomTechnique #AnnHince #HealingJourney

Perusing my Timehop and I was reminded of my good time at @blackgirlartshow ! I can't wait to go this year in September!

Have you ever held on to something so long it started to live in your body? 😩
In this episode, I talked with @ann.hince about how EFT tapping helped her release trapped emotions, shift trauma, and find peace from the inside out.

✨Healing isn’t just a vibe—it’s a full-body transformation.
💫 Tap. Release. Heal.
🎧 Watch the full episode here 👉🏾 https://youtu.be/NPUSS0cHXzQ

#EFT #HealingJourney #EmotionalFreedom #TappingMeditation #LetThatShitGo #BYOKPodcast #SelfCareTools #TraumaHealing #SpiritualAwakening #EnergyHealing #AnnHince #InnerPeace #BlackPodcast #WellnessContent #MindBodyHealing

Your hair is your story—and we want to hear it. 🖤✨

Join the Her Hair, Her Story Project, where we’re collecting personal voice messages about your hair journey. Whether it’s a moment of pride, struggle, transformation, or joy, your voice can inspire someone else.

🎙️ Your story may be featured in an upcoming Be Your Own Kind podcast episode!

➡️ Share your story: https://www.speakpipe.com/beyourownkind
#HerHairHerStory #BeYourOwnKind #NaturalHairJourney #BlackHairMagic #voiceyourtruth

Have you watched The Residence on Netflix? 👀

It’s a juicy murder mystery — but what really caught my attention was the tribute to the staff who’ve long been the real force behind the White House.

From Alonzo Fields to Angella Reid, Black domestic workers have served with grace, power, and quiet dignity.

My latest blog dives into their stories, the show’s subtle truths, and why their legacies deserve center stage. 🏛️💫

📖 Read: https://www.beyourownkind.com/post/the-residence-behind-the-silver-platters

#TheResidenceNetflix #BeYourOwnKind #HiddenFigures #BlackLegacy #WhiteHouseStaff #UnsungHeroes #BlogPost #NetflixAndReflect

Your hair is more than just hair—it's memory, culture, resistance, and beauty.

✨ We're inviting YOU to be part of the Her Hair, Her Story Project, a celebration of real, unfiltered Black hair stories. Whether it's a funny moment, a childhood memory, or a deep truth you've never said out loud—your story matters.

🎙️ Leave a voice note and it may be featured in an upcoming episode of the Be Your Own Kind podcast:
🔗 https://www.speakpipe.com/beyourownkind

#HerHairHerStory #BeYourOwnKind #NaturalHairStories #BlackHairMatters #VoiceYourTruth

Our hair tells stories of survival, resistance, and deep-rooted pride. Yet we still hear:
“Can I touch it?”
“Is that your real hair?”
“You should straighten it more often.”

These aren't compliments — they're microaggressions that make us question our beauty.

And yes, even within our own community, we feel the pressure — curl pattern envy, texture wars, and length obsession. But here's the truth: our beauty has never been conditional.

Every kink, coil, and curl is a crown. 👑
Let’s unlearn the lies and love our roots out loud.

💬 Got a hair story of your own? Share it with us here: speakpipe.com/beyourownkind
We want to hear your voice. 🎤

#NaturalHairJourney #BlackGirlMagic #BeYourOwnKind #UnapologeticallyNatural #HairIsHeritage

Me hyping myself up in the mirror like: “We’re not gonna be petty today. We’re healed... kinda.” 😅🪞
#PersonalGrowthish #MilchickEnergy #SeveranceMood #AlmostMature

My Week Recap

This week was pretty productive! My meal planning went seamless ( unfortunately I forgot to take pictures...lol...my highlights this week were:

1. Hanging out with my sis @mzmetchi! She invited me to a free screening of @violadavis new movie, GTO, with our SiStars at @bwplinc! I had a great time seeing them and spending some much-needed time with my Sis! Plus the movie was EXCELLENT! ( review coming soon) ❤️

2. Yesterday I took a self-care day and went for a massage and had lunch with Mommy, @cbs3designs! Of course, it's always a great time with her. I appreciate how she continues to show up for my sis and me even at our BIG age...😆. I love you, Mom!

3. Also, remember to Keep Going! Quitting is Never an optional!

Have a Great Weekend!

Happy Saturday!!!!

📹 @familymark12 (tiktok)

This Week’s Recap:

1️⃣ My dietitian called me out—apparently, I'm not great at making impromptu meal choices (she’s not wrong). So, in an attempt to switch things up, I made sweet potato hash for breakfast. A little planning never hurt!

2️⃣ Derrick and I hit up Ghareeb Nawaz, @ghareebnawaz_chicago on UIC’s campus. I tried the butter beef—spicy and delicious!

3️⃣ Got to spend a little time with my BM' @stormyvocalsmartin this week. Always a good time!

4️⃣ Been working on acknowledging my emotions without overthinking things to death. It’s an interesting habit to build, but it definitely brings a new level of awareness.

How was your week? Drop a highlight in the comments! ⬇️

I just finished The Boyfriend by Freida McFadden, @@fmcfaddenauthor and wow—what a rollercoaster! 🎢 Twists, suspense, and a jaw-dropping ending that had me questioning everything. 🤯

This book made me reflect on times I ignored my instincts and the dangers of trusting the wrong people. Are our gut feelings always right? 🤔

Check out my review and let’s discuss! 👇🏾👇🏾
https://www.beyourownkind.com/post/ignoring-instincts-a-review-of-freida-mcfadden-s-the-boyfriend

#BookReview #TheBoyfriend #FreidaMcFadden #ThrillerReads #trustyourinstincts

This episode is a must-listen! We’re diving deep with Rich Vysion, @richvysion as he drops gems on self-worth, resilience, and rewriting your own story. If you’ve ever struggled with seeking external validation, this conversation is for YOU!

🎧 Tune in now and take control of your narrative!
https://youtu.be/SAG0CdLvYIc?si=CRW1dQTKXmsHogH6

#JustBeIt #BeYourOwnKind #Podcast #RichVysion #SelfValidation #NewEpisode

#Repost - @theshaderoom by @get_regrammer
#LLCoolJ’s wife Simone speaks about her 29 year marriage with the mogul! She says she had to mature and become confident in her relationship while getting closer to God! (🎥: @bankingoncultura) ✍🏾: #TSRStaffST

About Last Night...

#powerherconference #PowerHerGala

"I’m so excited to have finished my first book of the year! 🎉 It took some time, but I stuck with it, and I’m proud of myself for seeing it through.

Up next: Financial Freedom for Black Women by Brandy Brooks! 📖 I can’t wait to dive in and share my thoughts and insights with you all.

Who else is tackling their reading goals this year? Drop your current read in the comments! 👇🏾✨

✨ A Night of Black Excellence & Sisterhood ✨

Last night, my husband and I attended the @powerherconference Melanin Moonlight Gala, and it was nothing short of magical! ✨

From the powerful spoken word performances to the soul-stirring music and the beautiful Black Woman Museum exhibit, every moment was a celebration of culture, love, and resilience. 💜

This event reminded me why it's always a good day to be a Black woman. 🖤 If you’ve never been to the PowerHer Conference, you’re missing out on an unforgettable experience!

Read all about my night and the incredible performances in my latest blog post. ⬇️

📖 https://www.beyourownkind.com/post/magic-music-melanin-the-powerher-gala-recap (link in bio)

#PowerHerGala #BlackGirlMagic #Sisterhood #BlackExcellence #MelaninMoonlight #Empowerment #beyourownkind

🎙️ New Podcast Episode: From Victim to Victor with Rich Vysion 🎧

In this powerful episode, we sit down with conscious rap luminary Rich Vysion, @richvysion as he opens up about his journey of overcoming mental health struggles and transforming trauma into triumph. Rich shares insights from his book From Victim to Victor: Transforming Trauma into Triumph, and discusses how music, support systems, and art have played pivotal roles in his healing process.

We also dive into topics like: 💥 The impact of cyberbullying
💥 The importance of safe spaces for healing
💥 How music can be a tool for emotional recovery
💥 Starting your own healing journey

Don’t miss this inspiring conversation that bridges the gap between mental health and music. 🎶

📲 Listen now: https://youtu.be/SAG0CdLvYIc (Link in Bio)

#MentalHealthAwareness #HealingThroughMusic #RichVysion #TraumaToTriumph #MusicAndMentalHealth #SupportSystem #FromVictimToVictor #OvercomingDepression #HealingJourney #MentalHealthPodcast

These powerful words from Sarah McBride, @sarahemcbride remind us that connection is key. Facts may inform, but it's empathy that transforms.

In her inspiring article in Bazaar, @harpersbazaarus McBride highlights how visibility and shared experiences can break barriers and build bridges. By embracing authenticity and sharing our stories, we allow others to see not just what we believe, but who we are.

Today, consider this: How can you show up more fully and authentically in your relationships, your work, or your community? Sometimes, the greatest change happens when we simply allow ourselves to be seen.

#HumanConnection #SarahMcBride #EmpathyInAction

✨ Spring is Here! ✨

The season of fresh starts, new blooms, and brighter days has arrived! 🌿🌸

Spring reminds us that growth doesn't happen all at once — it unfolds gradually, one bud, one blossom, one warm breeze at a time.

This is your reminder to:
• Water the dreams you planted this winter.
• Embrace the sunshine and let it fuel your next steps.
• Clear out what no longer serves you — from clutter to limiting beliefs.

Just like the flowers that push through the soil, you have the power to bloom in your own time.

What seeds are you planting this season? 🌿🌟

* New Blog Post *

Sometimes, all it takes is a tiny seed to create something incredible. In my latest blog post, I dive into the symbolism of seeds and how they represent growth, potential, and the importance of nurturing our dreams. 🌿 Whether it’s personal development, new ventures, or relationships, the seed is the beginning of something powerful.

Plant the seed, trust the process, and watch it bloom. 🌻💖

Check out the full blog post and start planting your seeds today! 🔗 https://www.beyourownkind.com/post/power-of-the-seed

#PowerOfTheSeed #GrowthJourney #NurtureYourDreams #PersonalDevelopment #SeedsOfSuccess #TrustTheProcess

Possibilities are out here hiding in plain sight, just waiting for you!

That side hustle idea? It's been whispering in your ear every time you complain about your 9-to-5.

That book you’ve been meaning to write? The perfect plot twist popped up last week while you were stuck in traffic.

That fitness journey you've been delaying? It's cheering you on every time you pass by that workout gear in your room.

Opportunities aren't always obvious; sometimes they wear disguises. But if you're willing to look past the noise, you'll find them winking at you, ready to make a move.

Today, challenge yourself to see the possibilities you’ve been overlooking. What can you say yes to that you've been avoiding?

🌟 Possibility is knocking... are you ready to answer? 🌟

@samiranasr #justbeit #yougotthis

Last week was pretty lit!

I got to spend some time with my sis @mzmetchi to see @tsmadison and @craigthewriterstewart @citywinery

Derrick and I went to @strackvantil and I was flabbergasted upon discovering the cheese that emulates the animated cheese I've seen in cartoons for years. #epic

Last week's prompt was all about rooting for your younger self. You can see my version of this prompt on my site (link in Bio)

I was excited to receive my first copy of @papercandydesignsbyd. It's black-owned and I can't wait to read it all.

Friday was my Mom's 65th birthday. It's such a blessing to have such a vivacious and bright light still shining in my life.

I never wanted to be different for fear of being left out. Present day, I don't care. I'm weird, so what? I am truly embracing all of me! ❤️

And why O why does this comb hang on when the others walk away? ...lol

Happy Friday!!!

#Repost - @willsmith by @get_regrammer
Waited 35 years for this dance to trend.

Ib: @mimeemzyy (via TikTok)

📢 This Week's Writing Prompt ✍️

"If you could write a letter to your younger self, what advice would you give about pursuing your dreams, overcoming self-doubt, and staying consistent with your goals?"

Check out my heartfelt letter to young Nita where I reflect on love, resilience, and trusting God through it all. ❤️

👉https://www.beyourownkind.com/post/dear-nita

I'd love to hear your thoughts or even see your own letter! Let's inspire each other. 💬 #WritingPrompt #DearYoungerSelf #GrowthJourney

Why do we wait for others to give us our flowers and not take the time to give them to ourselves?

When was the last time we truly appreciated ourselves and admired the fruits of our own labor?

What if we shifted the focus to pleasing ourselves and celebrating the person we’ve worked so hard to become?

In the comments, share something you’re proud of about yourself!

#WomensHistoryMonth #SelfAppreciation #CelebrateYourself #ProudOfMe

This weekend, our family came together to surprise my mom with a pre-birthday celebration for her 65th year!

Her reaction was absolutely priceless—pure joy and love! #Epic

✨ Weekly Writing Prompts Are Here! ✨

Writers, dreamers, and storytellers—let’s spark some creativity! Each week, I’ll be sharing a new writing prompt to challenge your imagination and inspire new stories. This week’s prompt is inspired by my latest blog post, "What a Difference Five Minutes Make."

https://www.beyourownkind.com/post/what-a-difference-five-minutes-make

📖 Prompt: Write about two people who meet at the wrong time but share an undeniable connection. How do their choices, secrets, and missed moments shape their futures?

Want your story featured on the site? Email it to info@beyourownkind.com for a chance to be published!

Drop your responses in the comments or share your own take on this prompt! Let’s write! ✍🏽💫 #WritingPrompt #CreativeWriting #Storytelling

Happy Friday!!!

#Repost - @callmechoko by @get_regrammer
Man Why They Had To Do Me Like That?? 🤣🧔🏾

Movie name RED FLAGS 2🟥 (On Tubi)

Good times, good times! You can catch me in a few movies on Tubi—let me know when you spot me! Take a pic and send it my way! 🤣🎬

Movies Now Streaming on Tubi:
🎬 Red Flags
🎬 Red Flags 2
🎬 Mahogany
🎬 Deliveries From Eva
🎬 I Got The Juice
🎬 HTOWN

#callmechoko #independent #Tubi

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Power of the Seed

Golden Child Chronicles: Navigating the Pitfalls of Being the Favorite or Non-Favorite

Queendom: Is it Enough to Just Wear the Crown?

Is Lil Nas X Trolling Christianity, now?

Womanhood: Formidable Warriors That Need Not Be Played With

New Year, Same You!

Blueface and Chrisean: We Have a Problem

Reservoir of Strength

What Are You Living For?

Lizzo Enrage the People Again with her statement, "I'm a Body Icon"

Are you Still under Programming?

Did Nene Leakes Move On Too Soon?

Endurance Takes the Win

Kelly Price Fake Missing Fiasco: When Love and Concern Take a Left Turn

Dear October, I think I'll Skip the Scary Movies this Year

I Can't Afford the Absence of God

Dancing in September

Nah, Ya'll Tweakin over this Blood!

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