Updated: Jun 15, 2022
I get so flabbergasted as to how flabbergasted people get with Lizzo says the things she says, wears what she wears, and post what she posts. Short Answer: She is not doing anything different from anyone else; the only difference is her size. There have been a plethora of dresses and poses that Lizzo has published similar to our favorite slimmer celebrities. I am starting to believe the people are not mad at her vulgarity as they claim but simply because she is plus-size.
Are People Confusing Size with Confidence?
Never any shade to Rihanna because I am a massive fan of hers, but she has shown more A & T than I believe Lizzo ever has. People might have complained, but she was more revered as confident and strong. Whereas when Lizzo shows a little tail, she is weak and not happy with who she is. What is the difference? Both women are confident enough to display their goods unapologetically, and it is just one of them that doesn't fit the norm.
For anyone that has not been living under a rock, confidence comes in all shapes and sizes. I have met many people who have decided to stop worrying about how others thought they defined themselves. But, do people know the level of courage and energy it takes to be vulnerable and show you are to the world? If you are not sure of that answer...it's ALOT! And once you have exerted that energy to be your unadulterated self...there is no turning back.
Confidence is not a size, it is an attitude. For the people that kept reading People article that stirred up this dry drama, Lizzo said,
"It may not be one person's ideal body type just like, say, Kim Kardashian might not be someone's ideal, but she's a body icon and has created a modern-day beauty standard," she tells PEOPLE. "And what I'm doing is stepping into my confidence and my power to create my own beauty standard. And one day that will just be the standard."
There is no solid definition of a Body Icon as with everything else; it's subjective. Confidence is knowing who you are and standing on it. What a relief to relate to someone settling into who she is. As a plus-size woman, I am always finding ways to be physically and mentally healthy. I have also learned not to put my life on hold or loathe myself and separate my confidence from my weight. I, too, choose not to spend my life feeling bad about myself because that is what I'm expected to do. Kudos to Lizzo for encouraging a plus-sized version of confidence.
Don't Be Shy? What are your thoughts about this situation? Have you ever been body-shamed? How did you handle it?